An affair: More or less, but it's a she






More or less but it's a she

You feel your husband is having an affair with a subordinate. Not just that. You took notice of stories for years spreading that your spouse is having an affair with another employee, as it appears that warning signs are confirming that this may be more than just rumor. You have attempted to pay no heed to the stories that even started from your spouse’s very close relative and other former colleagues, because she didn’t look like the sort of woman he’d notice. However, having recalled the other women he had connection with in the past, looking like helpers from the provinces with accent even, nothing’s impossible. What’s worse, an acquaintance visited his office and thought that the woman was a male acting like a female. (Yep, she looks like a gay male person). But she’s all “woman” since she had a son with another married guy in the past. (Oh yeah, a real home wrecker, And you wonder what kind of company would hire such background when integrity, safety, and moral judgment are supposed to be upheld) It’s becoming progressively more interesting. You cannot stop from thinking about him sleeping with a femme fatale whom you don’t even know one’s reproductive health background, except that she uses panty liners once you saw office receipts for toiletries. Yep, the office pays for this. (Funny, your spouse doesn’t give you a dime, hmmm) Anyways, you begin to think of the sores and skin problems he’s been having. Some of the probable warning signs, not all, to watch out for that the spouse is cheating is when he spends more time in the office. Among the most common defenses is that he put more time into his occupation than usual and has been coming home late, sleeps in the office and takes your daughter’s favorite sleeping comforter, or worse left the house to live with his mom. (lol!) Apparently, is just an excuse not to be noticed by you or his children who are starting to discern as well. Another could be perfume or change in another outfit. Majority of the women especially in a tropical country will put on perfume or cologne. For some men, feminine perfume on clothes may be observed. Or if he is attempting to cover up his affair, he may change into another top. Or maybe you will suddenly become conscious that his cologne scent is even stronger than when he is out for work, this is actually to cover up the smell of the perfume on his clothing. Call logs in his cell phone, emails and phone messages erased. A few may have the habit of erasing messages after reading or sending. But many don’t because it’s painstaking. If the spouse suddenly becomes fascinated with erasing messages, emails or call logs, or totally hides his phone or keeps another small phone underneath his car, it may imply that he is trying to thwart you from knowing about some evidence that he is actually infidel. E-mailing surreptitiously on the internet or phone, or going to the office and you find them behind closed doors when there are no other people on the floor since it’s in the wee hours of the morning. He swiftly leaves the room or goes to a small corner once the cell phone vibrates. (Do you notice, it seldom rings) He always ends the conversation or speaks in a loud voice “Yes, tell Mr. So-so I’ll be there in a minute,” right away whenever you are coming near where he is standing. If he is acting very awkwardly when that happens, this is a warning sign to be wary of his atypical behavior. This is just a peep of the realities that abound. Probably more to discuss in the future, if still can maintain one’s sanity.